The grass isn’t greener on the other side – it’s greener where you water it.
This phrase originally came from an American song written in 1924 called “the grass is always greener in the other fellow’s yard” by Raymond B. Egan and Richard A. Whiting, and the chorus goes a little something like this:
The grass is always greener
In the other fellow’s yard
The little row
We have to hoe
Oh boy that’s hard.
But if we could all wear
Green glasses now,
It wouldn’t be so hard
To see how green the grass is
In our own backyard
I like the idea of this, because the chorus suggests that if we look at life through a different lens, we realise we actually have it pretty good ourselves.
People who suffer from the “grass is always greener” syndrome usually have commitment issues. The media would always have us believe that there is always something better that we are missing, and we get FOMO. So instead of working through challenges in our relationship, our job, whatever the situation may be, we get the feeling something better exists in a different yard, and anything less than perfect won’t do.
Perfection doesn’t exist. Working through the challenges is what life is about. Accept imperfection in all it’s flawsomeness.
The greener grass is usually a fantasy based on our own fears, or projected fears from others – fear of commitment, of boredom, oppression or not being able to shine in all our true colours and be the person we really are.
It’s not up to another person, place or thing to make us happy. Happiness comes from within and it takes work and consistent action.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side.
The grass is greenest where you water it.
Are you watering your grass? Loving it? Nurturing it? Fertilising it? Planting flowers in it?
Water your grass mo fo’s, and watch those flowers grow.