How often do you make decisions based on what other people might think? 🤔 Have you ever… 👍🏼 Said “yes” when you wanted to say “no” or “fck off”? 🤐 Stayed quiet to keep the peace? 🧐 Changed your opinion because someone disagreed with you? Put everyone else’s needs before your own? If so, you might be abandoning your authentic self because you’re seeking external validation and approval. For most people, this starts in childhood. 👧 If…
After all the trauma you’ve endured and how much you’ve grown from it, you might start telling yourself “I’ve got this,” when you realise you’re one of the most independent people you know. It seems like confidence on the surface because you’re a strong, capable and independent person. 💪🏻 But what can seem like confidence may actually be the result of your nervous system learning that relying on other people wasn’t safe. Your brain has adapted because you were…
How long have you been putting something off because you keep telling yourself… “I’ll do it when I feel more confident.” Confidence doesn’t come first. You grow your confidence by DOING THE THING. 🤗 So many people are waiting for the perfect time, the right qualification, more money, more experience, more energy or more certainty. The problem is… none of those things create confidence. Taking action does. When I started my own business, I wasn’t overflowing with confidence. I…
When I hit 38 after the end of another abusive relationship, I had completely lost trust in my own judgement. I’d discovered my core wound of abandonment and rejection and… fuck me, did it hurt. 😞 Even after having done a shitload of healing, coaching and other personal development tools since my early twenties, this wound knocked the wind out of me. 💨 I needed time and space to heal. A lot of space. Space to reflect on what…
When I met Lyn in March 2025, she had been agoraphobic for around 5 years and barely left her room during that time. 🥺 She was estranged from her family, had survived abusive relationships, was living with complex PTSD after significant grief and loss, had very little support outside of her doctor and psychologist, and certainly wasn’t living the life she wanted. We initially had a video call to discuss her needs and a way forward. She has since…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…