One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…
“You become like the five people you spend the most time with” is one of my fave quotes. 🫶🏻 If you keep surrounding yourself with negative, lazy, toxic, dramatic people who love a good whinge, it’s going to rub off on you too and your life will start to look like theirs. Energy rubs off. Mindsets rub off. Standards rub off; do you really want to lower your standards or raise them? 🤔 So if you spend most…
First impressions are lasting, aren’t they. 🧐 My Dad always taught me that when you introduce yourself to someone you should always have a strong handshake. 🤝 Lots of people have commented on my strong handshake. Think about those times when you’ve shaken someone’s hand and it’s like shaking a wet bit of lettuce. 🥬 😂 What assumptions do you make about them? What about a strong handshake, do you notice that person has more confidence? ☺️ People look…
Back in early 2011, I found myself back in depression soon after thinking I’d recovered from it. 2010 was a pretty terrible year for me in many ways. I slipped a disc in my back, was signed off work for 4 months, left a toxic relationship, ended up in depression and ultimately moved to Australia to fulfil a lifelong dream. I think a lot of us who move to another country end up with the blues at some…
Are you in a relationship (or friendship) where there seems to be a lot of drama that leaves you confused?You might be dating a toxic person.IN AN ARGUMENT THEY LOOK TO INFLICT DAMAGE NOT SOLVE PROBLEMSThey do this because they’re trying to protect themselves from a perceived threat to themselves or to the relationship.If you’re showing signs of being independent – such as going out with your friends without them – they won’t show their vulnerability to you.If they’re feeling…
The other day I was listening to a podcast and the guest said “it’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than to think your way into a new way of acting. I totally agree. If you can’t see the video below you can watch it here on YouTube. It reminded me of watching Tony Robbins speak with someone in his audience who had depression. To show them how in control they are of…





