Are you aware of the power of the words you’re using day in and day out? 🗣️ I was listening to my coach talk about this on her podcast The Mind School where she was interviewing a psychologist who said the term “experiencing depression” instead of “struggling with depression“. A lot of people wouldn’t pick up on the intentional change in wording there, but this is something I do too. By changing the way you word things, you’re changing…
Recently I seem to be having a lot of conversations with strong, warrior women in my life who are going through really difficult times and in huge conflict about showing their vulnerability. Do you consider yourself to be a fearless warrior?💪🏻 Yeah, me too. The problem with that is that we’re often reluctant to admit we need help, and even more reluctant to ask for it 🫠 Back in 2010, I was in a…
After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me. ❤️🩹 PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us. 🥹 We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over…
If you’re struggling through something difficult, like a sand bog or a marsh, going back takes as much effort as is does to push through to the other side. The painful slog through needs to be gone through to get to the end. What I see in a lot of people going through tough times is that they want to bury their head in the sand and avoid the issue altogether (which never resolves anything), or they avoid their painful…
An old friend once told me that when you’re struggling to know what to do about a situation, the hardest thing to do is usually the right thing. I’ve usually found that’s right for whatever it is I’m going through. It’s harder to have the conversation you need to have than to pretend nothing is wrong and ignore how you feel. It’s harder to have a break up chat with your partner than continue to say nothing even though you’ve…
I was in a workshop the other day where a clinical psychologist was talking about Post Traumatic Growth (PTG) and showed this picture of a broken bowl, repaired with gold or silver lacquer, called Kintsukuroi. The idea is the piece is more beautiful for having been broken. I thought this was such a beautiful idea. In the world of personal development there is a constant quest for “fixing” the broken pieces of ourselves in order to move on…
