I’ve never really believed in the old saying “two halves make a whole”. It never really made sense to me. Don’t two whole people make a better partnership? If you’re half a person then you’re always looking for someone else to meet your needs instead of you being able to fill your cup without external sources. When I was in my 20’s, I remember the feeling of looking at a whole weekend with no plans.…
Sometimes I feel an almost overwhelming sadness about how much time I’ve wasted in relationships with men who didn’t deserve my love and time. And then I reflect on all the lessons I’ve learned and realise they all got me to where I am today. As I fast approach 40, I’m in an amazing place in my life where for maybe the first time ever there is a sense of balance and happiness in every single area of…
I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
After I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person” a friend reached out as she was getting ready to leave her relationship. PLEASE NOTE I’m not talking about abusive relationships here. While all abusive relationships are toxic, not all toxic relationships are abusive. Toxic relationships are full of constant drama, manipulation, negativity and an endless push-pull cycle. Abusive relationships are all of the above but are much more dangerous and leaving them is a risk factor –…
I’ve been listening to a bit of Tara Brach lately and she has a great video about how to stop the war against ourselves.She speaks about how when we’re suffering, it’s because we’re holding on too tight and need to let go.If you let go a little you’ll find a little peace.If you let go a lot, you’ll find a lot of peace.If you let go completely, you’ll be able to live your life fully.This could be letting go of…
I was listening to an interview the other day with Lisa Nichols about how she rescued herself from a life of poverty to become the successful person she is today.This is a must watch/listen as there were SO many gold nuggets I couldn’t keep up!Listen or watch here.One of the things that stood out was her quote “your conviction and convenience don’t live on the same block.”What she’s referring to is that most people want the convenience of self-development, without…