I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
After I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person” a friend reached out as she was getting ready to leave her relationship. PLEASE NOTE I’m not talking about abusive relationships here. While all abusive relationships are toxic, not all toxic relationships are abusive. Toxic relationships are full of constant drama, manipulation, negativity and an endless push-pull cycle. Abusive relationships are all of the above but are much more dangerous and leaving them is a risk factor –…
I’ve been listening to a bit of Tara Brach lately and she has a great video about how to stop the war against ourselves.She speaks about how when we’re suffering, it’s because we’re holding on too tight and need to let go.If you let go a little you’ll find a little peace.If you let go a lot, you’ll find a lot of peace.If you let go completely, you’ll be able to live your life fully.This could be letting go of…
I was listening to an interview the other day with Lisa Nichols about how she rescued herself from a life of poverty to become the successful person she is today.This is a must watch/listen as there were SO many gold nuggets I couldn’t keep up!Listen or watch here.One of the things that stood out was her quote “your conviction and convenience don’t live on the same block.”What she’s referring to is that most people want the convenience of self-development, without…
I was chatting to a friend the other day about a guy she’s been seeing for a few months.She was really upset about the way she’s being treated and she’s well aware that she’s allowing it to happen due to her own limiting beliefs and self-worth issues. Not everyone is as aware as my friend about how much she is feeding into the situation.A lot of us in relationships can get stuck into blame and victim mode when things aren’t going well.Why do they…
We’ve all got people in our lives who suck the life out of us. Those kind of push/pull relationships where they’ll push you away, call you a crappy friend/partner, act like you don’t even exist or talk smack about you to others.Then they pull you back in with some drama or another, making you feel needed in some way.Exhausting, isn’t it? True energy vampires.Ask yourself what it is you’d need to do to change the situation.Do you need to have better…