As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore. The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people. Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit. We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line. Maybe we suddenly…
I was listening to a Lewis Howes interview with Mathew Hussey this week (they’re both awesome) and Mathew gave a great analogy about relationships and building a castle. He said too many people out there base their whole relationship on the connection with their partner and the potential they have together. He said this is like buying an amazing plot of land together, in a beautiful landscape. My ideal plot of land is by the ocean.…
I’ve been listening to a few interviews with Michael Singer recently, author of The Untethered Soul. He wrote this book a long time ago but I only recently came across his work watching an interview he did with Oprah, where she said reading his book was a game changer for her. He gives some great metaphors for how we hold on to emotional pain and attempt to protect ourselves from further pain. If you had a…
After I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person” a friend reached out as she was getting ready to leave her relationship. PLEASE NOTE I’m not talking about abusive relationships here. While all abusive relationships are toxic, not all toxic relationships are abusive. Toxic relationships are full of constant drama, manipulation, negativity and an endless push-pull cycle. Abusive relationships are all of the above but are much more dangerous and leaving them is a risk factor –…
I was sat next to an older lady getting her nails done the other day. About 5 minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life.An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack 8 years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand – I also knew…
I was listening to a podcast the other day and the interviewee was talking about the best piece of advice he ever received from a mentor.“You must master your environment before you depart it.”There are times where this isn’t possible or safe to do so – for example, in a situation of domestic violence.But the statement got me thinking about how a lot of us will jump from one similar situation to another, never learning the lessons and so repeating…