I was listening to a podcast interview the other day where Gretchen Rubin from The Happiness Project was talking about asking a certain question when you’re unsure about taking a certain action. She gave the example of when she was thinking about getting a dog. Her kids really wanted one, but she was thinking about the extra responsibilities that go along with it and how it would make it more hassle to travel as she’d have to…
As the world goes through the coronavirus crisis, we are also experiencing another crisis in our homes – family violence. SBS have their month of May focusing on the family violence crisis in Australia, with a three part documentary series “See What You Made Me Do” based on Jess Hill’s book of the same title. The series explores one of the most complex and urgent issues of our time – domestic abuse. Presented by investigative journalist Jess…
If you haven’t ever heard of a guy called Mathew Hussey talking about relationships, you need to find him on YouTube now. He’s amazeballs, love his work. One of the best things I’ve ever heard him talk about is how relationships are about the trash cans. He talks about being taken to Disneyland by his folks as a 13 year old, and how excited he was. He couldn’t articulate why at the time, but he…
As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore. The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people. Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit. We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line. Maybe we suddenly…
I was listening to a Lewis Howes interview with Mathew Hussey this week (they’re both awesome) and Mathew gave a great analogy about relationships and building a castle. He said too many people out there base their whole relationship on the connection with their partner and the potential they have together. He said this is like buying an amazing plot of land together, in a beautiful landscape. My ideal plot of land is by the ocean.…
I’ve been listening to a few interviews with Michael Singer recently, author of The Untethered Soul. He wrote this book a long time ago but I only recently came across his work watching an interview he did with Oprah, where she said reading his book was a game changer for her. He gives some great metaphors for how we hold on to emotional pain and attempt to protect ourselves from further pain. If you had a…