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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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What do you need to feel safe?

  Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑   Safety goes way deeper than that.  Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐  For some of…

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Get your shit together in 2025!

  Day 8, 2025. Did you set any resolutions at the start of the year? ✍🏻  How are they going? Chances are, not very well. 🤔  Rather than set resolutions each year, why not focus on getting your shit together in general?  How long has it been now that you’ve been thinking of changing your career, healing your past, working on (or ending) your relationship, prioritising your health and fitness, {insert desired goal here}? If not now, then when?  Things…

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Strategies for healthy boundaries when dealing with victim mindsets

  I was once sat next to an older lady while we both got our nails done.  About five minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life. An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack eight years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand –…

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Are you ready for HFC Recovery? (5 steps to healing)

  Last week I posted a blog on 17 traits of High Functioning Codependents – HFC’s. Read it here if you missed it: I wanted to follow up with some tips on how to overcome this if you recognised yourself as a HFC. 😳  Healing your HFC personality can be challenging and takes practice, but it’s totally worth it! Here’s my 5 tips to getting started. AWARENESS 😳 The first step to healing anything is becoming aware of your patterns…

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Would you be proud or worried if your kid followed your relationship path?

  When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. 🧐    It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response.   We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…

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