Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…
You’re second guessing your own feelings. 😔 You feel hurt by the way they treat you, and wonder if you’re just overreacting. You feel uncomfortable with what they’ve said to you, but tell yourself you’re being too sensitive. You KNOW in your gut that something is off, and has been for ages… but you gaslight yourself and convince yourself otherwise. 💨💡 So you continue to minimise, justify and rationalise their words, their actions, their lack…
I once heard a podcast interviewee share her story of overcoming a challenge and she said: “If I had listened to me, it wouldn’t have happened.” Which situations can you say that about in your life? 🧐 Where you ignored your gut feeling and intuition, only to be kicked in the butt by it later? Hearing that sentence definitely caused me to reflect on many such times in my own life where I’d ignored my gut feeling, only to…
✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…
I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…
We live in a world obsessed with fixing things. 🔨 Broken nails, broken phones, broken relationships. Fixing our faces so we don’t age. Fixing ourselves with endless personal development. But some things aren’t fixable – they’re fucked. 🥺 That’s not as doom and gloom as it sounds… but it IS an invitation to stop wasting your fucking time. I spent YEARS (and a fair bit of money, too) trying to fix things that were never mine to fix –…