We live in a world obsessed with fixing things. 🔨 Broken nails, broken phones, broken relationships. Fixing our faces so we don’t age. Fixing ourselves with endless personal development. But some things aren’t fixable – they’re fucked. 🥺 That’s not as doom and gloom as it sounds… but it IS an invitation to stop wasting your fucking time. I spent YEARS (and a fair bit of money, too) trying to fix things that were never mine to fix –…
(The real reason why you’re falling out of love) We don’t talk nearly enough about the papercuts that we get in our relationship. Not the big, dramatic blow ups that make you pack a bag and storm out like you’re in some trashy MAFS scene. 😤 No, I’m talking about the little moments. The raised voice. The “you’re being too sensitive.” 🥺 The important thing you had on today that they couldn’t be arsed to ask about. The “not now”…
Recently one of the members of my Project Self Worth course sent me this message: HER: this healing shit is coming in waves haha 🌊 ME: sounds like you’re processing so much in this course! HER: it’s opened up a lot. I think it was bubbling away at the surface and I had the “nah I’m healed” mentality and then the course said “hold my beer” 🍺😂 This member has also done a few of my other courses –…
Recently a conversation I was having with one of my Project Self Worth members reminded me of something my coach had said on one of her podcasts about people robbing themselves of joy. She spoke about this in the context of your past trauma leading you to protect yourself in certain ways, and how this essentially leads you to putting a cap on the amount of happiness you allow yourself to feel. 🥹 I remember how much emotion this…
I don’t watch MAFS generally but one of my friends was very insistent this week that I watch what’s unfolding with dickhead (whoops, I mean Adrian) and Awhina, so I set myself up a 9 now account and got stuck into some clips. 🤔 My friend started out as a client quite a while ago now and back then knew nothing about coercive control and domestic abuse. After quite a few sessions together, I’m proud to say she’s regularly…
Imagine getting bitten by a snake, and instead of focusing your energy on recovering you chase the snake, wanting to know why it hurt you. 🥹 You want to prove to the snake that you didn’t deserve it biting you. This is a great analogy for what those who seek approval and validation outside of themselves tend to do when hurt by others. We chase them for answers; why did they hurt us? What did we do wrong? What…