Recently I shared the quote: “Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you’ve been hurt. But not many people talk about how hard it is to trust YOURSELF when you’ve had your gut instincts, values and convictions skilfully undermined in a relationship where you’ve been coercively controlled.” Up until I met my amazing fiancé Cam in 2020, I had a history of relationships where I’d been love bombed, gaslighted, manipulated, coercively controlled and emotionally, mentally…
Often I work with my coaching clients around situations that don’t serve them, and are making them completely miserable. 😞 They’ve usually been in the situation they’re in for a long period of time. The situation they’re in never starts how it ends. Take the example of an abusive relationship. If an abusive relationship began how it ends up, you’d never find yourself in that relationship. It starts with subtle things at first – put downs, comments about what…
We’ve all got people in our lives who suck the life out of us. Those kind of push/pull relationships where they’ll push you away, call you a crappy friend/partner, act like you don’t even exist or talk shit about you to others. Then they pull you back in with some drama or another, making you feel needed in some way. Exhausting, isn’t it? True energy vampires. 🧛♀️ Ask yourself what it is you’d need to do to change the…
Have you ever found yourself in something you thought you wanted for a long time, but when you were in it, you realised it wasn’t for you? 🤔 This might be a job, education, relationship, place that you’ve moved to… anything really. Even if you’ve been in your relationship for years, what are you costing the rest of your life by staying in it if you’re unhappy? 🥹 Even if you don’t want to let…
You’re right here. 🤷🏼♀️ You also can’t run away from your problems – because you’ll be taking yourself with you. You could “find” yourself wherever you are, and make a decision to be happy with who you are, warts n all. 🤗 And if there are things you want to change about yourself that’s fine too, just choose to be happy while you make those changes. Choose happiness 💛 As always, if you want…
It’s subtle at first, the way they change you. 💔 The way they pick on the things you wear. How you look. Who you hang out with. Criticising how you cook, how you clean, how you take the bins out. Telling you their friends think you’re “too much.” You’ve buried yourself in work, another thing they criticise you for. 😢 Work has become your respite, the place where you can be yourself. …