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Myth busters: 6 Toxic relationships lies that keep you stuck💣

  ✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…

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When his eyes turned black, I knew I was in trouble

  I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…

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Some things can’t be fixed

  We live in a world obsessed with fixing things. 🔨  Broken nails, broken phones, broken relationships. Fixing our faces so we don’t age. Fixing ourselves with endless personal development. But some things aren’t fixable – they’re fucked. 🥺 That’s not as doom and gloom as it sounds… but it IS an invitation to stop wasting your fucking time.  I spent YEARS (and a fair bit of money, too) trying to fix things that were never mine to fix –…

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Strong on the outside, falling apart on the inside

    Since I was at school I was always the one my mates would turn to for a brain dump. They’d vent to me and I’d seem to know what to say to help them feel better. ❤️‍🩹  It felt good for me too, so it seemed only natural to get into a career where I was helping others. My identity was totally enmeshed with being the helper, the fixer… the one everyone turned to with their pain, their…

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Are mixed signals giving you emotional whiplash?

  Consistency is the key in any relationship when it comes to building trust and emotional security. If we get caught up in the early stages of a relationship and any potential love-bombing that may be going on, it can be easy to miss inconsistency creeping in. 🫣 When it finally hits you, you may feel confused and frustrated.  Inconsistency can show up in unpredictable behaviour or communication patterns to create uncertainty by giving you mixed signals. 🚦  They may…

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From parole officer to full time biz

  I was recently listening to this podcast where ex homicide detective Gary Jubelin was interviewing another ex homicide detective who he started his career with at the police academy. 👮    They both agreed that back then, they entered the force thinking this would be their life long career. At first they didn’t want to take a single day off as it was all new and exciting, they got to see the kind of stuff most people only see…

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