I shared a pic this week on FB that said “I’ve found the key to happiness; stay away from assholes.”
A friend then posted this comment:
“Carly you have an inner light and power to transform people! Humans are all at different levels of development. There are stages of consciousness. And within the stages there are lines of development – moral, emotional, intellectual etc. A doctor may drive a car like a selfish fool. A loving nurse may ignore her own mother. A generous wise school teacher may get addicted to meth.”
I commented back that I absolutely agree with this statement, and I work every day supporting people who are going through their challenges to help them become a better version of themselves.
But the fact that I’ve chosen a career of helping people does NOT mean that I need to put up with having assholes around me in my personal life.
Being a helper type often goes hand in hand with having shitty boundaries and allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
This comes from a place of lack of self-love and this has been one of my biggest lessons to work through – and I continue to do so every day.
By working on my boundaries I’ve gradually decluttered the assholes in my life.
Believe me, this wasn’t through a lack of trying to help them become a better version of themselves.
BUT people don’t always want to change; if they’re happy being an asshole who am I to try and change that?
What I’ll do instead is choose not to be around them.
And that’s absolutely my right, even if I’m someone who helps people.
If you’re someone in a helper role, please know that doesn’t mean you have to put up with people treating you like shit.
If you’re surrounded by assholes and don’t know what to do about it, drop me a message and let’s have a chat.
In the meantime, love yourself. Because you’re a badass.
You also might want to check out a relevant blog I wrote about self love:
Catcha on the flip side,