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Coach Carly

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Are you a love addict in a codependent relationship?

A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings.We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way.Many of us who find ourselves in this kind of relationship have a history of neglect, abuse, or family addiction in our childhood.If we aren’t allowed to show our feelings to the adults around us, or how we felt wasn’t validated, this leads to limiting…

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Trauma is the gateway

I saw a very thought provoking quote by Russell Brand (love him) the other day that is so true.   “Cannabis isn’t a gateway drug. Alcohol isn’t a gateway drug. Nicotine isn’t a gateway drug. Caffeine isn’t a gateway drug.   Trauma is the gateway. Childhood abuse is the gateway. Molestation is the gateway. Neglect is the gateway.   Drug abuse, violent behaviour, hyper sexuality and self-harm are often the symptoms (not the cause) of much bigger issues. And it…

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Let go or be dragged

“Hold with an open hand, or face the consequences”   We’ve all been there.   Something in our life isn’t working out the way we thought it would, or wanted it to.   We know that we need to let go, but we cling on for dear life hoping things will get better.   “If I just stay another 6 months in this job that’s killing my soul, maybe I’ll figure out what I want to do with my life.”…

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The trap of “smiling depression”

We often think of depressed people hiding in the dark in their house, looking and feeling lethargic, and isolating themselves from others.   Not everyone shows depression in this way.   Some people will feel the lethargy, sadness, worthlessness, hopelessness, helplessness, yet put on a mask where they’re smiling and doing their best to hide how they really feel.   They’re skilled at masking their depression, powering through the day appearing to others as cheery and happy.   This is…

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Is your mood impacting your immune system?

The interaction between our mental health and physical health is complex, but there is now more and more research being done into it. Researchers have now found a wealth if evidence to show that when we suppress our emotions, we also suppress our immune system. They’ve also found that positive emotions support the immune system, leading to faster healing time from illness and injury. Research has found that those who’ve lost a spouse can take up to a year to…

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