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Coach Carly

Don’t be afraid to tap out when you need to

  In this world we live in, it can be easy to get overwhelmed by life.   We are so used to the daily grind, with an insane ability to be switched on 24/7 and available at the drop of a hat.   A few weeks ago I felt a growing desire to tap out of it all for a while – not life, but the busy-ness of it all.   So much has changed in my life in the…

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Stop telling yourself who you’re supposed to be, or you’ll never find out who you really are

  We live in a world full of labels and stereotypes. Usually when I meet someone one of the first questions is “what do you do?” Like what you do defines who you are. I’m more interested in WHO you are, not what you do. When you ask that question instead, a lot of people struggle to answer. Who am I without labelling myself in the way I do? When you strip off the labels and get nekkid, how do…

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All or something

  Are you an “all or nothing” kinda person? I used to be. But the “all or nothingness” leads to extremism and then not really getting to your goals in the most effective way. Life is messy, humans are messy, nobody is perfect. We are all driven by our limiting beliefs such as “I’m not good enough” which kicks in hard when we feel like we are failing. Show up anyway. You can smash out the best week/month ever with…

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What has become your new normal, and are you willing to change it?

  I was talking to a client last week who described a life changing event when he was 14.   He smoked weed for the first (and last) time, and since then he felt like he’s been watching life through a veil, or from behind glass.   He’s had heightened anxiety and struggles to relate to those around him.   He’s looked into it on google and found the terms “derealization” and “depersonalisation.”   “Derealization is an alteration in the perception…

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We are all broken

  I love this quote by Ernest Hemingway;   “We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.”   Reminds me of a blog I wrote on kintsukuroi, a Japanese technique where they take broken items and piece them back together with gold, the idea being that we are more beautiful for having been broken.   The most amazing people I’ve ever met are those who truly know what it is to feel broken, and to learn, heal and…

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I don’t know who I am anymore: the death of identity

As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore.   The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people.   Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit.   We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line.   Maybe we suddenly…

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