Recently a coaching client asked me for tips on how she can trust her own judgement and make her own decisions.
When needing to make a decision, she finds she’s unable to make one on her own without relying on others to tell her what they think she should do. 🥹
To try and get out of this habit, she’s now leaning on ChatGTP for her decisions instead.
The danger in this is that by relying on others to make all our decisions for us, we never build the skills needed to tune into what we really feel about the decisions we’re making. 🧐
When we then find ourselves in a situation where we absolutely have to make that decision ourselves, we’re paralysed by thoughts. 💭
We’re also at risk of living a life led by what others want for us, because we never really take the time to reflect on what we want for ourselves.
This can lead to us feeling more confused than ever, living a life that doesn’t really bring us joy, because it’s not a life we created. 😞
The only person who has to live with your choices is YOU.
It’s time to back yourself!
If you don’t, you may end up with a bunch of regrets. 😭
Here are my top tips on trusting your own decisions.
- GET MINDFUL 💞
When chatting to my coaching client about this, I asked her to close her eyes, put her hand on her heart and really tune into her heart and emotional space.
Going inwards and reflecting is a really important part of getting to know, like and trust yourself more.
I then asked her a couple of questions, and asked her whether the answer felt like a “fuck yes” or a “hell no” to her.
This is a really great way of tuning into your body so you can find out what you actually want before you ask a friend or Chat GTP for advice.
- START SMALL 👌🏻
Another method is to just start really small – making your own decisions about what to eat for dinner, where to go/whether or not to go out with your mates tonight, what movie to watch on Netflix, rather than getting someone else to make the decision for you.
You can then build your confidence in decision-making and test out bigger decisions – what dress to buy for your mates wedding, where to go on a weekend trip away, what car you might want to buy in future.
- JFDI 🤟🏻
Like the Nike ad says; “Just Do It’.
Or as I like to say, JFDI (Just Fucking Do It).
- ASK CURIOUS QUESTIONS 🧐
You can also ask yourself my all time fave question:
“If I 100% loved, honoured, trusted and respected myself, what decision would I make?”
Also known as #WWMBSD (what would my best self do?)
- REFRAME 🖼️
Start reframing mistakes as reps – it’s all about the reps you put in when learning a new skill – just like the number of reps at the gym build more muscle, you can build your decision-making muscle by JUST MAKING MORE DECISIONS.
If it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world – it’s a learning opportunity.
Trusting yourself and having your own back doesn’t mean that you’ll never fuck things up. It just means you’ll be easily able to reset when you do, learn from it, laugh about it and move on.
Ready to ditch the people-pleasing and start backing yourself like the badass you are?
Let’s chat; make a decision and drop me a DM.
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Catcha on the flip side,
