How many people do you know who introduce themselves by talking about their struggles? 🤔 You only need to sit at a nail bar or coffee shop to hear people around you talking about all the things in their lives that are going wrong. Is this something you do too? Do you define yourself by your problems by saying things like “I’m an anxious person”, “I’m a people-pleaser“, “I’m terrible with money“, “I’ve always had shitty relationships“, “I’m just not…
When I hit 38 after the end of another abusive relationship, I had completely lost trust in my own judgement. I’d discovered my core wound of abandonment and rejection and… fuck me, did it hurt. 😞 Even after having done a shitload of healing, coaching and other personal development tools since my early twenties, this wound knocked the wind out of me. 💨 I needed time and space to heal. A lot of space. Space to reflect on what…
I once listened to an amazing Tim Ferris podcast where he interviewed Catherine Hoke, the “master of second chances.” Catherine runs the not for profit Defy Ventures, which is an entrepreneurship, employment and character development program for currently and formerly incarcerated men, women and youth. I spent 18 years working in Corrections and mental health with people with various labels, and I really resonated with Catherine’s commitment to wanting to make a difference to the planet by…
Changing any situation that no longer serves you doesn’t start with action… or motivation… or affirmations and vision boards. It starts with AWARENESS. And awareness is the hardest bit – it’s inconvenient as fuck to become aware there’s an issue, because it means you can’t claim ignorance anymore. It means you’re starting to admit what you’re feeling in your body, that you’ve noticed the pattern; and that now you can’t unsee this shit. 🙈 Awareness is your “oh shit”…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
Back in the world of Government jobs, you’d often hear the term being thrown around; “work smarter, not harder”. I always found this funny given we were all slogging our guts out under a massive workload and this seemed to be a way to make us more “productive” – so we could essentially get even more sht done in our day. I found it even funnier when they set up yet another working party to figure out how to…