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Never tell a narcissist your new first

    I was listening to an awesome Lewis Howes podcast recently where the interviewee was describing the reactions of narcissists to certain things.   One of the things she said was “never tell a narcissist your good news first”.   Tell your cheerleaders first – the people in your life who love and support you unconditionally so you can continue to feel good and celebrate for a while.   The reason for this is that they’ll turn any bit…

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Are you enabling those you love?

  I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”.   How true that is.   enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/   A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another.   I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries.   I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction.   I’ve enabled people to continue living in…

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We are all broken

  I love this quote by Ernest Hemingway;   “We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.”   Reminds me of a blog I wrote on kintsukuroi, a Japanese technique where they take broken items and piece them back together with gold, the idea being that we are more beautiful for having been broken.   The most amazing people I’ve ever met are those who truly know what it is to feel broken, and to learn, heal and…

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How Is Not Confronting Your Dark Side Serving You?

It doesn’t matter who you are, or how successful you are – we all have shit from our past that can keep us stuck. Old, core wound shit that has led to feelings of being unlovable, unworthy, useless, stupid, not good enough. The core wound shit that has attracted people, situations and relationships into our lives that “prove” that we aren’t good enough over and over – until we do the work to heal our wounds. This stuff happens to all of us on some…

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How to deal with someone who is always playing the victim

I was sat next to an older lady getting her nails done the other day. About 5 minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life.An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack 8 years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand – I also knew…

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10 life lessons from a Navy SEAL that relate to every day life

I was listening to an audio book by ex Navy SEAL Admiral William H McRaven called “Make Your Bed” (get it for free on YouTube) last week, and his important learnings from his training relate to all of us if we want to be our best selves. I was listening to an audio book by ex Navy SEAL Admiral William H McRaven called “Make Your Bed” (get it for free on YouTube) last week, and his important learnings from his…

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