After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me. PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us. We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over time, we…
“I am what I think others think I am.” Read that a few times and notice the power (and truth) in that statement. We live in a world based on a perception within a perception. We have all these perceptions (illusions and lies) about what our partner, boss, friend, parent etc thinks about us, and we act accordingly. Bit mad isn’t it? It means that most of the time, we aren’t being our true, authentic selves. Do we even know…
I was chatting to a friend the other day about a guy she’s been seeing for a few months. She was really upset about the way she’s being treated and she’s well aware that she’s allowing it to happen due to her own limiting beliefs and self-worth issues. Not everyone is as aware as my friend about how much she is feeding into the situation. A lot of us in relationships can get stuck into blame and victim mode when things aren’t going…
Are you in conflict with your values? Knowing what I now know about my values, it’s easy to see why certain situations in my life were stressful or painful for me. My most important value is integrity, and I’ve felt really tested when I’ve seen a lack of integrity around me, or when I’ve been out of integrity myself. When we’re in conflict with our most important values it can really do our head in – we mull over the…