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Are you living with integrity?

  I was listening to a podcast recently and the guest speaker said “the things you do when nobody is watching is who you really are – not who you are in front of others”. I agree with the sentiment that it’s the way we are in private that says more about us than who we are in front of others. Do the things you do when you’re alone and nobody is watching, match up to who you say you…

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Are you drifting through life?

“Drifting is the decision you’re making when you don’t make a decision about where you’re heading” I heard this statement in a podcast the other day and it really hit as a truth. A lot of people are coasting/drifting through life, day by day feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, without any real sense of purpose or meaning. I especially find this happens in “mid life” where people have what essentially society says should make you happy – a good job,…

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I don’t know who I am anymore: the death of identity

As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore.   The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people.   Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit.   We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line.   Maybe we suddenly…

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What happens if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?

  It’s normal for us to want those we love the most to be supportive of our goals.   But sometimes, this isn’t our reality.   Recently a member of my online course asked me, “what do I do if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?”   It totally depends on what the context is around this.   We all have our own personal goals, as well as shared goals with our partner and family.   But sometimes…

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18 life lessons from a helper (recovering rescuer-enabler) type

After spending most of my life helping others, and often (in the past) to my detriment, I thought I’d share some learnings that I wish someone had shared with me.   PEOPLE CAN CHANGE, BUT WE CAN’T CHANGE THEM   As a helper type it’s so natural to want to dive in and help people we see in need, especially those closest to us.   We do this because we believe everyone has the capacity to change; over time, we…

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Are you being your true authentic self?

“I am what I think others think I am.” Read that a few times and notice the power (and truth) in that statement. We live in a world based on a perception within a perception. We have all these perceptions (illusions and lies) about what our partner, boss, friend, parent etc thinks about us, and we act accordingly. Bit mad isn’t it? It means that most of the time, we aren’t being our true, authentic selves. Do we even know…

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