How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…
No, I don’t mean you actually dating your kid. When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our…
I was listening to a podcast recently and the guest speaker said “the things you do when nobody is watching is who you really are – not who you are in front of others”. I agree with the sentiment that it’s the way we are in private that says more about us than who we are in front of others. Do the things you do when you’re alone and nobody is watching, match up to who you say you…
“Drifting is the decision you’re making when you don’t make a decision about where you’re heading” I heard this statement in a podcast the other day and it really hit as a truth. A lot of people are coasting/drifting through life, day by day feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, without any real sense of purpose or meaning. I especially find this happens in “mid life” where people have what essentially society says should make you happy – a good job,…
As I approach “mid life,” I notice that more and more people around me are starting to feel like they don’t know who they are anymore. The age milestone of 40 seems to bring with it a loss of identity for a lot of people. Relationship breakdowns, divorce, bring with it the loss of identity as a husband, wife, family unit. We lose grandparents and parents, and get closer to being next in line. Maybe we suddenly…
It’s normal for us to want those we love the most to be supportive of our goals. But sometimes, this isn’t our reality. Recently a member of my online course asked me, “what do I do if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?” It totally depends on what the context is around this. We all have our own personal goals, as well as shared goals with our partner and family. But sometimes…
