1. Avoid blaming someone or something else for your negative feelings. Nothing and nobody has the power to control how you think and feel unless you let it. 2. Don’t blame yourself for not being in control. You’re doing the best you can. 3. Be aware of when you’re playing the victim role. Learn the clues that tell you when you’re not being responsible for what you’re being/doing/having/feeling. 4. Get to know your biggest energy –…
How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…
I was listening to an amazing, inspirational podcast interview the other day on “I Catch Killers with Gary Jubelin”. Gary was interviewing Khalid Baker, who was convicted of a murder he’s always maintained he never committed. He was only 18 and went on to spend 13 years in prison. He talked about how he could have let anger consume him, but this would have led him to staying stuck. He knew the system would…
Personal development is a never ending journey; we’re all a work in progress, but the journey is so worth it. The first step of change is becoming aware of your own bullshit; once you get tired of your own story, that’s when the biggest transformation happens. How do you know you’re living in a bullshit story? You keep playing small in life by not going for what you really what You’re not speaking your truth You’re afraid…
“Drifting is the decision you’re making when you don’t make a decision about where you’re heading” I heard this statement in a podcast the other day and it really hit as a truth. A lot of people are coasting/drifting through life, day by day feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, without any real sense of purpose or meaning. I especially find this happens in “mid life” where people have what essentially society says should make you happy – a good job,…
I was listening to a podcast interview the other day where Gretchen Rubin from The Happiness Project was talking about asking a certain question when you’re unsure about taking a certain action. She gave the example of when she was thinking about getting a dog. Her kids really wanted one, but she was thinking about the extra responsibilities that go along with it and how it would make it more hassle to travel as she’d have to…