Imagine getting bitten by a snake, and instead of focusing your energy on recovering you chase the snake, wanting to know why it hurt you. 🥹 You want to prove to the snake that you didn’t deserve it biting you. This is a great analogy for what those who seek approval and validation outside of themselves tend to do when hurt by others. We chase them for answers; why did they hurt us? What did we do wrong? What…
It was November 2018. I woke up on the floor after sleeping in a room in my house that I used as my office, instead of sleeping in my bedroom, where he was sleeping. I felt scared, afraid to leave the room and confront the situation ahead of me, treading on eggshells as always and feeling like a shell of my former self. 🐚 It wasn’t unusual to be met with passive aggressiveness, being completely ignored…
Last week I finished up my 5 Day Love Lab Challenge. Almost 100 people signed up for this and during the challenge they had a couple of reflective questionnaires to complete. One of them in particular a lot of members found very challenging to complete, as some of the questions were very confronting. What was interesting to me (but also unsurprising, as I see this all the time), was how similar some of their answers were. One of the…
These days, the bulk of the coaching work I do with clients is around their relationship. Often, when a client starts working with me for coaching or energy work they come to me with some vague problems around feeling unhappy and discontent with where they’re at in life, but they’re struggling to understand why. 😞 It doesn’t usually take many sessions to realise that they have a serious lack of self-love which is showing up in a lack of…
When I first heard “never let the unacceptable become the acceptable it really triggered a big reflection for me. 🧐 A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. 🥹 How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. 😔 How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. 😭 How I gave my energy…
I love this quote by Ernest Hemingway; “We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.” Reminds me of a blog I wrote on kintsukuroi, a Japanese technique where they take broken items and piece them back together with gold, the idea being that we are more beautiful for having been broken. ❤️🩹 The most amazing people I’ve ever met are those who truly know what it is to feel broken, and to learn, heal and grow in…