There came a moment in my past abusive relationships where something inside me said “not this, not anymore“. Initially, it was a whisper, and the whisper got louder until I just couldn’t ignore it. If this is happening to you right now too, it may still be a whisper that you don’t fully trust yet – and that’s totally ok. But you are feeling it. Thinking it. Knowing it, deep in your bones somewhere. That nagging feeling that…
It rarely starts with a big moment. 🤷🏼♀️ No dramatic fight. No obvious dealbreaker. No clear reason you can point to and say, “This is wrong.” 🤔 As a relationship coach and trauma-informed practitioner who has spent over 20 years working with women in unhealthy dynamics and perpetrators of family violence as a Parole Officer (and having lived it myself in many past relationships) I see this quiet questioning stage all the time. This means awareness is starting to…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…
Every year around December, people find themselves wondering… “Why do I feel so emotional?” “Why am I anxious, overwhelmed or irritated?” “Why does Christmas feel… heavy?” And if you’re someone who grew up with chaos, criticism, emotional inconsistency or any version of “walking on eggshells,” then Christmas isn’t just a holiday season… 🎄 It’s a somatic time machine. This is because Christmas activates the same parts of the brain as emotional memories from childhood. Christmas isn’t just a one-off…
The Christmas holidays are already in full swing with end of year work parties galore. 🎄 The time of year when everyone pretends they’re having magical, heart-warming moments when really all they want to do is curl up in bed and avoid everyone, and half the population is actually one passive-aggressive comment away from flipping a table and throat punching that relative they can’t stand. 🤜 If the build up to Christmas and the ensuing family gatherings or relationship…
You know that moment every December when you swear blind that next year will be different? I’ve already heard a few peeps say they can’t wait for this year to be over so they can start fresh next year. You have this vision where you’ll magically transform into the kind of person who meal-preps, meditates daily, sets boundaries with ease, and somehow gets their entire life in order by 9am Yeah… how’s that been working out for you? If…