Imagine getting bitten by a snake, and instead of focusing your energy on recovering you chase the snake, wanting to know why it hurt you. 🥹 You want to prove to the snake that you didn’t deserve it biting you. This is a great analogy for what those who seek approval and validation outside of themselves tend to do when hurt by others. We chase them for answers; why did they hurt us? What did we do wrong? What…
Have you ever looked back at a moment in time and KNOWN it was the moment your entire life changed? Well, consider this a sign that change is well and truly on the way. A BIG FLASHING NEON SIGN. 💠 Back in 2019, I was a complete shell of myself after yet another failed relationship. 🫥 After years of abusive relationships with narcissists, putting myself last, having shit boundaries and not loving or respecting myself, I didn’t…
When I first heard “never let the unacceptable become the acceptable it really triggered a big reflection for me. 🧐 A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. 🥹 How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. 😔 How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. 😭 How I gave my energy…
Do you remember who you were at your happiest? ☺️ Before you let all those mo fo’s dim your fucking shine? 🫥 Do you remember what it is that makes you truly happy? The things you love to do? 🤗 The things that make you smile, laugh, or make your heart sing? Is it time to un-know yourself? There’s never a better time than now to start freeing yourself from all the negative bullshit and past trauma that rained…
I was once sat next to an older lady while we both got our nails done. About five minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life. An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack eight years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand –…
I was listening to Danny Morel interview therapist Terri Cole this week and she was listing out the traits of high functioning codependents (HFC’s) and my brain said: OMG THAT’S MEEEEEE!!! 😳 ⚡️ Well, it’s the version of me from the past but I consider myself “in recovery” (I still need to keep myself in check at times). HFC’s exhibit codependent traits while still managing to perform well in many areas of their lives. While they may seem successful…