I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships. A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔 We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way. We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…
I’ve never really believed in the old saying “two halves make a whole”. It never really made sense to me. Don’t two whole people make a better partnership? If you’re half a person then you’re always looking for someone else to meet your needs instead of you being able to fill your cup without external sources. When I was in my 20’s, I remember the feeling of looking at a whole weekend with no plans.…
Life is full of ups and downs, where it can feel like the shit hitting the fan will never end. This is a guaranteed part of life. But like old mate Tony Robbins says, pain is part of life; suffering is optional. Granted, when life gives you lemons, you can feel very triggered, angry, hurt, upset, resentful, bitter… and if this goes on for long enough you risk burnout, anxiety and depression. We can be our own worst enemy…
This week I was chatting to a friend about her recent relationship break up. As I was listening to her tell me about the abuse and manipulation she suffered, and how confused she was about it, and how despite how much of an arsehole he was to her she still wanted him to be ok, I realised we were talking about a sociopath.When you hear the term “sociopath” the movie Psycho might spring to mind, so let me unpack the…