Recently I’ve been chatting to a few clients about situations they’re in where they feel stuck in the “in-between”. 🥺 Limbo presents its own kind of challenges; it’s not about hitting rock bottom, it’s not chaotic, it’s not a blow-up moment where you’re forced into making a change. Limbo is the awkward, frustrated space that sucks the life out of you because you know something has to change, and you know what you want (or what you don’t want),…
“You become like the five people you spend the most time with” is one of my fave quotes. 🫶🏻 If you keep surrounding yourself with negative, lazy, toxic, dramatic people who love a good whinge, it’s going to rub off on you too and your life will start to look like theirs. Energy rubs off. Mindsets rub off. Standards rub off; do you really want to lower your standards or raise them? 🤔 So if you spend most…
I used to think healing meant peace. That once I left the chaos behind… the toxic relationships, the drama, the constant overthinking.. I’d finally be free. I thought it would feel calm, light, and effortless. Some days, it absolutely does. 🥰 You wake up and feel like your heart has finally unclenched. You’re grounded. Grateful. You can breathe again. But sometimes, out of nowhere… bam. A song, a smell, a memory… suddenly you’re right back there, feeling it all…
“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …
We’re taught to fear our breakdowns. To see every crack as a flaw. Every emotional collapse as failure. But what if the breakdown isn’t the end… what if it’s the beginning? I was in a workshop years ago where a psychologist spoke about Post Traumatic Growth – and showed an image of a shattered bowl repaired with gold, called Kintsukuroi. It’s the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer, not to hide the damage, but…
Do you ever feel like you are getting in your own way? Like you’ll be in a good place in your life, reaching for your goals, and then the shit hits the fan? 🪭 We all do this occasionally, and some do it repeatedly. We sabotage ourselves because our fears get in the way, and we want to rescue ourselves from these fears and negative feelings that come up. 😖 I was explaining this to a client last week…