I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships. A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔 We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way. We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…
I look happy in this picture, right? This was me in September 2010, the month before I moved from London to Australia. I was in Ibiza, with my brother, and it was definitely a happier week than I’d had, but I was still a shell of my former self. I’d had a hell of a year – actually a hell of a few years leading up to that holiday. I’d lost close friends to…
Recently I was listening to Joel on the Lived Experience Podcast and he was sharing what it was like to grow up with a mum with bipolar disorder. In this interview on the Lived Experience podcast I chat to Joel about my “past life” experience of being a partner/carer of someone with bipolar disorder. It triggered a lot of memories for me of a “past life” relationship in London starting when I was 26 years old, and I…
Back in early 2011, I found myself back in depression soon after thinking I’d recovered from it. 2010 was a pretty terrible year for me in many ways. I slipped a disc in my back, was signed off work for 4 months, left a toxic relationship, ended up in depression and ultimately moved to Australia to fulfil a lifelong dream. I think a lot of us who move to another country end up with the blues at some…
I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”. How true that is. enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/ A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another. I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries. I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction. I’ve enabled people to continue living in…
Have you ever gone through a challenging time in life and felt completely alone? Like you were the only one in the world going through something like this? Like nobody would understand? You don’t talk to anyone about what you’re going through as you’re worried they’ll judge you. When we’re going through crisis and chaos in our lives, we can feel isolated and alone. But when we come out the other side and share…