I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”. How true that is. enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/ A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another. I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries. I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction. I’ve enabled people to continue living in…
Have you ever gone through a challenging time in life and felt completely alone? Like you were the only one in the world going through something like this? Like nobody would understand? You don’t talk to anyone about what you’re going through as you’re worried they’ll judge you. When we’re going through crisis and chaos in our lives, we can feel isolated and alone. But when we come out the other side and share…
Life is full of ups and downs, where it can feel like the shit hitting the fan will never end. This is a guaranteed part of life. But like old mate Tony Robbins says, pain is part of life; suffering is optional. Granted, when life gives you lemons, you can feel very triggered, angry, hurt, upset, resentful, bitter… and if this goes on for long enough you risk burnout, anxiety and depression. We can be our own worst enemy…
Imagine if you stored every putrid smell you’d ever smelled in a room in your house – what would it smell like? Would you want to hang out in there? Would you try and avoid going in there at all costs? This is a bit like what we do with storing old hurts and traumas in our mind. Over time, if we actively choose not to heal old wounds, they become infected and stinky. …
It doesn’t matter who you are, or how successful you are – we all have shit from our past that can keep us stuck. Old, core wound shit that has led to feelings of being unlovable, unworthy, useless, stupid, not good enough. The core wound shit that has attracted people, situations and relationships into our lives that “prove” that we aren’t good enough over and over – until we do the work to heal our wounds. This stuff happens to all of us on some…
We all go through painful situations in life – it’s an inevitable part of the journey of living. But suffering is a human condition and one that we do to ourselves. We obsessively think about things that happened in our past, that we did or were done to us. We overthink all the things we believe are going wrong in our lives. And by doing so, we forget how magnificent our life really is. What we focus on, we get…