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Strategies for healthy boundaries when dealing with victim mindsets

  I was once sat next to an older lady while we both got our nails done.  About five minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life. An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack eight years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand –…

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Never tell a narcissist your new first

    I was listening to an awesome Lewis Howes podcast recently where the interviewee was describing the reactions of narcissists to certain things.   One of the things she said was “never tell a narcissist your good news first”.   Tell your cheerleaders first – the people in your life who love and support you unconditionally so you can continue to feel good and celebrate for a while.   The reason for this is that they’ll turn any bit…

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Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t go to for advice

  Life is full of Negative Nancy’s isn’t it?   Peeps who are always willing to dish out their “expert” opinion on how you should live your life.   Reflect on who you’re surrounded by in life at the moment; are they helping or hindering you?   Do they support you in your goals or do they cock-block you?   Over the years I’ve diligently decluttered the critical shitheads from my life and now I’m in a space where nobody…

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Have compassion for others who feel broken

  I read an amazing post today written by a survivor of an abusive relationship which I really resonated with.   She talked about her behaviours in that relationship that other people would have judged her for – drinking to self-medicate, feeling unhappy, not being her best self.   She said that some friends didn’t get it as they didn’t see the lie she was living, with others seeing him as Mr Nice Guy and her the Drunken Idiot.  …

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Why is the mind so negative?

  Imagine if you stored every putrid smell you’d ever smelled in a room in your house – what would it smell like?   Would you want to hang out in there?   Would you try and avoid going in there at all costs?   This is a bit like what we do with storing old hurts and traumas in our mind.   Over time, if we actively choose not to heal old wounds, they become infected and stinky.  …

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How to deal with someone who is always playing the victim

I was sat next to an older lady getting her nails done the other day. About 5 minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life.An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack 8 years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand – I also knew…

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