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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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Myth busters: 6 Toxic relationships lies that keep you stuck💣

  ✨ If you’ve ever doubted if it’s really abuse – this one’s for you. For years, I believed every one of these myths. I justified, explained away, and sugar-coated behaviours that were slowly destroying my self-worth – all because I thought that’s what love looked like. It’s time to call bullshit on the lies that keep so many women stuck in painful, confusing, toxic relationships. Let’s bust a few myths, shall we? 👇 ❤️ MYTH #1: “It’s not abuse…

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Strategies for healthy boundaries when dealing with victim mindsets

  I was once sat next to an older lady while we both got our nails done.  About five minutes after I sat down to get mine done she starts telling me all about her life. An hour later I knew she’d had a heart attack eight years ago and that’s why she was sweating so much, she has a pacemaker and recently she broke her finger saving a puppy and now can’t feel any pain in that hand –…

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One of the best questions you can ever ask yourself

  I was chatting to a Reiki client the other day about some relationship and work issues she was having.  I asked her a question that I ask a lot of my clients, and ask myself a lot, which I believe is actually one of the best questions you could ever ask yourself. “If I truly loved, honoured, trusted and respected myself, what would I not be putting up with? If I completely loved and respected myself, and prioritised my…

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17 Traits of high functioning codependents

  I was listening to Danny Morel interview therapist Terri Cole this week and she was listing out the traits of high functioning codependents (HFC’s) and my brain said: OMG THAT’S MEEEEEE!!! 😳 ⚡️  Well, it’s the version of me from the past but I consider myself “in recovery” (I still need to keep myself in check at times). HFC’s exhibit codependent traits while still managing to perform well in many areas of their lives.  While they may seem successful…

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Did you grow up in a home with constant yelling?

    I was lucky enough not to grow up like this, but a lot of peeps I know did.    Did you grow up in a home where constant yelling was seen as normal? 🗣️   While this may be common, it’s not normal.    This way of communicating activates our nervous system into “fight, flight or freeze” mode. 😳   This will turn affect how you handle conflict as an adult, especially in your own relationships.   If…

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