“Relationships take work.” Well yep, that’s true, but there IS a difference between two people working on a healthy relationship and people disguising emotional damage as effort. The latter leads to slowly becoming a shell of yourself. 🐚 All relationships have challenges. Hard conversations, disagreements and growing pains are normal. But if you constantly feel anxious, confused, or like you’re the only one trying to fix things, that’s not “just a rough patch.” That’s a red flag. 🚩 …
I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…
On Boxing Day Hot Fiancé and I went for a 16.2km hike. 🥾 While we walked we spent hours in conversation, reflecting on our 2024 has been; sharing wins, challenges and learnings. We reviewed each area of our lives and then we consciously created our 2025 by setting intentions and goals – both shared and personal goals. 💫 It was soooooo lovely for me to do this with him as he’s the first partner I’ve been with who’s actually…
I love this quote by Ernest Hemingway; “We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.” Reminds me of a blog I wrote on kintsukuroi, a Japanese technique where they take broken items and piece them back together with gold, the idea being that we are more beautiful for having been broken. ❤️🩹 The most amazing people I’ve ever met are those who truly know what it is to feel broken, and to learn, heal and grow in…
This is me, Thursday night just gone, in massive pain and laying on hot water bottles. I’ve had chronic pain for about the last nine or ten years after I wrote off my motorbike and landed on my head. Didn’t know for the first seven years that it was a bulging disc in my neck causing issues as my main symptom was neck and shoulder pain. Started getting a mad headache on Wednesday which by…
I recently listened to an awesome Ed Mylett podcast where he was talking about how people respond to stress, and sharing an analogy which I loved. Some things turn soft in boiling water, like a carrot. Other things get harder when boiled, like eggs. But a coffee bean transforms the water into something new, it changes its surroundings and becomes something desired. Reflect on some of the people in your life. Who has…