Hey legend, Today as I write this, we are 20 days away from Christmas day.🎄 Christmas can be such a triggering time of year for many people – those who are estranged from their families, those remembering loved ones who’ve passed away, those unable to see their kids, the homeless, the addicted, the incarcerated… and many more. Loneliness and financial poverty can increase stress and exacerbate mental health issues. 🥺 The Christmas period can also…
You’ve spent years being the emotional airbag for everyone else… cushioning their crashes, absorbing their outbursts, translating their moods, and tip-toeing through their triggers. Meanwhile, your own emotional world is crumbling. 🤯 You’ve become so hyper-attuned to their feelings that you’ve been completely ignoring your own. Maybe you grew up walking on eggshells, reading the room before you could even read words. Maybe somewhere along the line you decided that peace was maintained by keeping everyone else happy… even…
I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…
Ever feel like you’ve read all the self-help books, journalled until you got RSI, and sat through therapy sessions nodding along… but still feel like you’re dealing with the same old shit? 💩 Yeah. You’re not the only one, legend. That’s because there are some sneaky AF emotional patterns that may be keeping you stuck. 😣 They’re subtle, quiet, and disguised as “normal” – but they’ll keep you spinning in circles until you drag them into the light. Here…
I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…
We spend so much time talking about red flags – the toxic partners, the burnout, the emotional fckery – that it can be easy to miss the good stuff. 🚩 But when you’re actually doing the work on yourself (and not just “reading one self-help book and crossing your fingers hoping for the best”), there are little green shoots that pop up to show you: hey legend, you’re healing. 🌱 Here are some green flags that show you’re not…