Have you ever spent time with someone and walked away feeling like they’ve sucked the fucking life out of you? Or had a conversation with someone who’s going through a tough time and suddenly found yourself feeling totally fried, knackered, anxious or weighed down by THEIR problems? Maybe you’re the person everyone comes to when their life goes to shit. 💩 You’re the listener. The helper. The fixer. 🔨 🔧 The one who’s always there – the “strong” one. …
How many people do you know who introduce themselves by talking about their struggles? 🤔 You only need to sit at a nail bar or coffee shop to hear people around you talking about all the things in their lives that are going wrong. Is this something you do too? Do you define yourself by your problems by saying things like “I’m an anxious person”, “I’m a people-pleaser“, “I’m terrible with money“, “I’ve always had shitty relationships“, “I’m just not…
One of the hardest things about being in a relationship with a covert abuser is the fact that nobody witnesses the abuse. 🥺 Actually, most people see the complete opposite – the charming person, the funny side of them, the helpful side of them, the “empathic” side of them. They might see your partner as the kind of person who’d give you the shirt off their back. 👕 The kind of person everyone loves – while behind closed doors,…
One of the biggest things I see in the personal development world is people confusing authenticity or intuition with acting on every feeling they have. Just because something feels true doesn’t mean it’s coming from your authentic self. Sometimes it’s coming from your wounds and insecurities. Which is a mahoosive difference. Your authentic self says: “This relationship isn’t meeting my needs, so I really need to have an honest conversation with them.” 🗣️ Your insecurity says: “They didn’t text…
One of the most fucking annoying people tell survivors of toxic, abusive and narcissistic relationships is: “Just get over it” … as if what you endured was only a bad breakup. 😳 Like you can wake up one morning, decide you’re done thinking about them, and magically move on. But when you’ve spent months or years in a relationship involving manipulation, coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonding and emotional abuse, they didn’t just hurt your feelings. They totally changed the…
Imagine a world where we’re all taught how to regulate our emotions as kids, see our problems from a different perspective or as growth opportunities, and to have compassion and non-judgement for others. 🌍 A world where we process trauma as it happens, not when we hit a mid-life crisis. How different would that world look? 🧐 Less mental health issues? Less addiction issues? Less reacting and more responding? There are plenty of tools that you can use as…