Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…
I often find myself working with clients who have never learned how to appropriately identify their emotions. 🥹 They put their emotions in two buckets – bad (angry and sad) or good (happy). Our emotions are much more complex than this and it can be helpful here to refer to the wheel of emotions to explore what you’re feeling in a much deeper way. For example, you may think that you’re feeling angry, but there are…
Are you aware of the power of the words you’re using day in and day out? 🗣️ I was listening to my coach talk about this on her podcast The Mind School where she was interviewing a psychologist who said the term “experiencing depression” instead of “struggling with depression“. A lot of people wouldn’t pick up on the intentional change in wording there, but this is something I do too. By changing the way you word things, you’re changing…
This week I went to see the movie, Inside Out 2. 🫶🏻 It was such a fun way to represent to kids and adults how beliefs are formed in the brain and also how you can overcome negative/limiting beliefs. Riley, the main character, hits puberty overnight and it’s so funny to watch the representation of how the “characters” – joy, sadness, disgust, anger and fear handle this new unknown territory when the shit hits the fan and the new…
I seem to be having a lot of conversations lately about codependent relationships. Firstly, it’s important to know that even strong, independent people end up in codependent relationships. I know this first hand after being in many codependent relationships myself, even though I consider myself a very independent person. WHERE DOES IT ALL START? As a kid, if you’ve experienced the following things it leaves you way more likely to find yourself in codependent relationships as an adult: 😢…
We all have emotional baggage from our past that holds us back from achieving our goals and being our best self. One of my favourite things to do is to help others uncover what’s holding them back so they can become the best version of themselves. Out of the hundreds of tools I’ve learned along the way, forgiveness work is my number one go-to if I’m stuck. The first forgiveness technique I learned was taught…