I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”. How true that is. enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/ A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another. I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries. I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction. I’ve enabled people to continue living in…
I heard this story on a podcast today and love it. “There once was a little boy who had a very bad temper. His father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the fence. On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails into that fence. The boy gradually began to control his temper over the next few weeks, and the number…
It doesn’t matter who you are, or how successful you are – we all have shit from our past that can keep us stuck. Old, core wound shit that has led to feelings of being unlovable, unworthy, useless, stupid, not good enough. The core wound shit that has attracted people, situations and relationships into our lives that “prove” that we aren’t good enough over and over – until we do the work to heal our wounds. This stuff happens to all of us on some…
After I posted my blog “5 signs you’re dating a toxic person” a friend reached out as she was getting ready to leave her relationship. PLEASE NOTE I’m not talking about abusive relationships here. While all abusive relationships are toxic, not all toxic relationships are abusive. Toxic relationships are full of constant drama, manipulation, negativity and an endless push-pull cycle. Abusive relationships are all of the above but are much more dangerous and leaving them is a risk factor –…
The interaction between our mental health and physical health is complex, but there is now more and more research being done into it. Researchers have now found a wealth if evidence to show that when we suppress our emotions, we also suppress our immune system. They’ve also found that positive emotions support the immune system, leading to faster healing time from illness and injury. Research has found that those who’ve lost a spouse can take up to a year to…
Kurt Vonnegut said “hate, in the long run, is about as nourishing as cyanide.”He’s so right.Are you holding on to repressed anger, bitterness, resentment or hate?Who are you directing that towards?Do you know what those kind of emotions do you your physiology, physical body and mental health when you refuse to let them go?Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The only person we are really hurting is ourselves. Toxic emotions can create serious…