This week I went to see the movie, Inside Out 2. 🫶🏻 It was such a fun way to represent to kids and adults how beliefs are formed in the brain and also how you can overcome negative/limiting beliefs. Riley, the main character, hits puberty overnight and it’s so funny to watch the representation of how the “characters” – joy, sadness, disgust, anger and fear handle this new unknown territory when the shit hits the fan and the new…
I seem to be having a lot of conversations lately about codependent relationships. Firstly, it’s important to know that even strong, independent people end up in codependent relationships. I know this first hand after being in many codependent relationships myself, even though I consider myself a very independent person. WHERE DOES IT ALL START? As a kid, if you’ve experienced the following things it leaves you way more likely to find yourself in codependent relationships as an adult: 😢…
I’m reading a book at the moment which has been on my to-read list for SO long; The Body Keeps the Score by Bessell Van Der Kolk. At the moment I’m reading a section about safety and reciprocity, about how being able to feel safe with other people is “probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives”. Numerous studies have found that social support is the…
Yesterday my amazing fiancé turned 40 🥳 I’d ordered a special yummy personalised cake for him and went to pick it up on Monday. It was a stinking hot day ~ 37 degrees as I drove to get it. 🥵 As the cake maker brought it out, she looked utterly devastated and embarrassed saying due to the heat in her kitchen the cake hadn’t set properly. She said she could fix it but needed…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…
How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…