I often hear my clients say they’re “confused” about whatever situation it is that they’re struggling with at the time. 😵💫
My answer is always the same.
I honestly don’t believe in “confusion” – not when it comes to relationships anyway, which is most often when this word comes up in conversation.
I believe “confusion” is more of a cop-out, a bullshit excuse you tell yourself when you don’t want to confront the truth that your intuition is showing you. 🤷🏼♀️
I say this, because when I ask questions like:
“How would you feel if your daughter/son was in the same kind of relationship or situation you’re in right now, what advice would you have for them?”
or
“If you 100% loved, honoured, trusted and respected yourself, what decision would you make?”
Then the person who says they’re “confused” is easily able to answer.
But when you keep telling yourself you’re confused, it brings about a certain kind of tiredness that comes from overthinking a situation – over and over again with no resolution.
The kind of tiredness that doesn’t get better with sleep or rest, because it’s peace that you really need. 🥱
You replay conversations over and over in your head, analyse their tone/your tone, try to remember exactly what was said as well as what their body language said for them, and you talk yourself in and out of how you feel, looping the same things over and over again in your mind. 🌀
The longer this goes on for, the less you trust yourself. The louder self-doubt gets.
You keep telling yourself maybe you need more time, maybe you’re overthinking, maybe you’re being too harsh, maybe things will change someday.
The road “someday” leads to nowhere.
Deep down, there’s a quieter voice trying to nudge you, asking you to be honest with yourself and ask a different question… a more honest question. 🙋🏼♀️
“Why does this keep happening?”
Your intuition is tapping you on the shoulder, while your mind keeps trying to make sense of something that will never add up.. because you’re trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.
Confusion is usually a sign that you’re right on the edge of seeing something clearly – and what you need now is the framework, language or safety to name what’s actually going on.
And that, my friend, is exactly what I help people with. 🤗
Over the next few days I’ll be sharing more about something I’ve been quietly working on; something designed to help you understand why you feel “confused”, help you reconnect with your intuition in a way that you trust what it’s telling you, help you see patterns clearly instead of getting lost in the details and help you respond to what’s actually happening, instead of the outcome you’re secretly hoping for.
I’m not here to tell you what to do – but I am here to help you see the reality of your situation.
Because I’ve been where you are, I know how it feels, including how alone you’ll be feeling (even if you’re surrounded by people), and how lost in the “confusion” you are. 🥺
I see you, and I’m here for you – with zero judgement.
If these words landed in your body and not your head… good. That’s not an accident.
Something is coming, very soon.
And it’s for those women who are so fucking done pretending they’re “just confused.”
Stay close, watch out for my next few posts because you won’t want to miss them if these words hit home for you.
Big love,
