It’s true. You are!
I’m reading a book of the same title at the moment by Jen Sincero and it’s a great read.
Jen writes “while there are countless ways that we rip ourselves off, there’s one way in particular that is, without a doubt, the most rampant and the most devastating of them all: we invest everything we’ve got in believing that we’re not good enough.”
“It’s just as easy to believe we’re awesome as it is to believe we’re giant sucky things.”
Our inner critic really gets the better of us and this comes from a place of low self worth and not really loving ourselves enough.
“If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works” ~ Louise L Hay, self help badass
Often in work with my coaching clients we might be working on conflict in a relationship, conflict with a colleague, getting out of a job they hate, forgiving the past… whatever it is, it usually always comes down to them not loving themselves enough.
If you 100% loved, honoured, respected, valued and nourished yourself, would you be in the relationship you’re in now? Would you be doing the same job? Would you be living in the same house/suburb/country? Would you have the same friends?
How much of your life would be the same?
If your inner critic was an actual person, would you want to hang out with them all day?
Increasing your self worth/self love can be pretty deep n dirty work. But there are simple techniques that you can use to get you going.
Often people find it really hard to answer the question “what do you value about yourself? What are you good at? What are your strengths?”
We’re taught not to show off or brag about ourselves as “nobody likes a show off.”
So instead our Negative Nancy in our head gets to take centre stage.
Grab a piece of paper and write down all the things you love or like about yourself, and what you’re proud of yourself for.
If you get stuck, think about what your mum/partner/best mate/boss might say about you.
Try seeing yourself through the eyes of someone who admires you. They believe in you and aren’t attached to your insecurities and limiting beliefs. They just see your full on shine and potential.
They see your badass-ness!!
“You are a badass. You were one when you came screaming onto this planet and you are one now. The Universe wouldn’t have bothered with you otherwise. You can’t screw up so majorly that your badassery disappears. It is who you are. It’s who you always will be. It’s not up for negotiation.”
So start acknowledging all the ways in which you are a totally awesome rockstar, and let THAT rule how you live your life, not that asshole Negative Nancy.
It’s time you started realising your awesomeness.
It’s time you really loved yourself 🙂
How much more awesome will your life be as a result?
Over and out.
Catcha on the flip side,
