Recently I shared the quote: “Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you’ve been hurt. But not many people talk about how hard it is to trust YOURSELF when you’ve had your gut instincts, values and convictions skilfully undermined in a relationship where you’ve been coercively controlled.” Up until I met my amazing fiancé Cam in 2020, I had a history of relationships where I’d been love bombed, gaslighted, manipulated, coercively controlled and emotionally, mentally…
When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. 🧐 It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…
How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…
No, I don’t mean you actually dating your kid. When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response. We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our…
I was listening to a podcast recently and the guest speaker said “the things you do when nobody is watching is who you really are – not who you are in front of others”. I agree with the sentiment that it’s the way we are in private that says more about us than who we are in front of others. Do the things you do when you’re alone and nobody is watching, match up to who you say you…
“Drifting is the decision you’re making when you don’t make a decision about where you’re heading” I heard this statement in a podcast the other day and it really hit as a truth. A lot of people are coasting/drifting through life, day by day feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, without any real sense of purpose or meaning. I especially find this happens in “mid life” where people have what essentially society says should make you happy – a good job,…