We’ve all got people in our lives who suck the life out of us. Those kind of push/pull relationships where they’ll push you away, call you a crappy friend/partner, act like you don’t even exist or talk smack about you to others.Then they pull you back in with some drama or another, making you feel needed in some way.Exhausting, isn’t it? True energy vampires.Ask yourself what it is you’d need to do to change the situation.Do you need to have better…
I shared a pic this week on FB that said “I’ve found the key to happiness; stay away from assholes.”A friend then posted this comment:“Carly you have an inner light and power to transform people! Humans are all at different levels of development. There are stages of consciousness. And within the stages there are lines of development – moral, emotional, intellectual etc. A doctor may drive a car like a selfish fool. A loving nurse may ignore her own mother.…
I was chatting to a Reiki client the other day about some relationship and work issues he was having.I asked him a question that I ask a lot of my clients, and ask myself a lot, which I believe is actually one of the best questions you could ever ask yourself.I recorded this video where I spoke about it, check it out on YouTube here: “If I was truly honouring myself, what would I not be putting up with? If I…
Recently I had someone ask me how they could better deal with people in their life who were being negative and critical. Been there, got the t shirt!Negative peeps are like crabs. If you go crab collecting with a bucket at the beach, once it’s full the crab at the top should be able to climb out ~ except it can’t, because all the other f@ckers below it keep dragging it down and ripping its legs off. Don’t let them drag…
As we grow as individuals and get to know ourselves more, we become more aware of our values and what’s important to us in life.That includes how we want to be treated.But what does this really mean?It mostly comes down to our personal boundaries, which stem from our sense of self-worth. Someone with a low self-worth doesn’t love themselves enough, or think they’re worthy enough, to stand up to those who are treating them badly. Someone with a healthy level of self-worth and self-love will have strong…
This week I was chatting to a friend about her recent relationship break up. As I was listening to her tell me about the abuse and manipulation she suffered, and how confused she was about it, and how despite how much of an arsehole he was to her she still wanted him to be ok, I realised we were talking about a sociopath.When you hear the term “sociopath” the movie Psycho might spring to mind, so let me unpack the…