At least once a week, somebody says to me “you’re sooooo lucky!” Luck has nothing to do with it. I posted a pic of the ocean on one of my usual beach walks close to my house an a guy in Scotland said “you’re so lucky – it’s so cold here.” Luck has nothing to do with it. He assumed I’d been raised here in Aus. I first visited Aus from London when…
We all know the old cliché phrase, “the grass is greener on the other side” – but most of us also know that in reality it isn’t true. This phrase originally came from an American song written in 1924 called “the grass is always greener in the other fellow’s yard” by Raymond B. Egan and Richard A. Whiting, and the chorus goes a little something like this: The grass is always greener In the other fellow’s…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…
Last week I was chatting with a friend who is on a break from her boyfriend. She was having a hard time dealing with it and was wanting to heal her pain, so I explained a process to her that I’ve found really helpful in the past. It’s called ho’oponopono and it’s a Hawaiian mantra for reparation, healing and forgiveness. The process is really simple ~ you bring to mind a certain situation or memory…
I was listening to an awesome Lewis Howes podcast recently where the interviewee was describing the reactions of narcissists to certain things. One of the things she said was “never tell a narcissist your good news first”. Tell your cheerleaders first – the people in your life who love and support you unconditionally so you can continue to feel good and celebrate for a while. The reason for this is that they’ll turn any bit…
How often do you have positive convos with your partner about your relationship? A lot of couples nit pick and whinge at each other about what they feel the other person is doing wrong or not doing enough of. Do you find yourself doing this in your own relationship? Most people are more than happy to point out what we perceive to be our partners flaws, while getting defensive about our own when they are…