My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…
Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…
Recently a coaching client asked me for tips on how she can trust her own judgement and make her own decisions. When needing to make a decision, she finds she’s unable to make one on her own without relying on others to tell her what they think she should do. 🥹 To try and get out of this habit, she’s now leaning on ChatGTP for her decisions instead. The danger in this is that by relying on others to…
I can’t remember which podcast I heard it on or who was talking about it, but I loved it when I heard it. 🫶🏻 I’ve always loved the question “what are you grateful for today?” – it’s a great question to ask yourself and your loved ones daily. This was being talked about on a podcast I was listening to, and the guy being interviewed said he’d also ask his kids each night at dinner “what did you fail…
I was listening to my coach Breanna May’s podcast the other day (shoutout to Bre) and she was talking about what happens when people are stuck. She quoted Tony Robbins, who said “the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask yourself”. This is soooo true. One of my all time favourite questions to ask my clients when they’re stuck on literally anything is: “if you 100% loved, honoured, trusted and respected…
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes unhealthy for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Abusive people show traits of narcissism and usually have attachment issues from childhood which tend to create a toxic playground and codependency/trauma bonding in…