Recently I shared the quote: “Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you’ve been hurt. But not many people talk about how hard it is to trust YOURSELF when you’ve had your gut instincts, values and convictions skilfully undermined in a relationship where you’ve been coercively controlled.” Up until I met my amazing fiancé Cam in 2020, I had a history of relationships where I’d been love bombed, gaslighted, manipulated, coercively controlled and emotionally, mentally…
Many moons ago when I lived in London, I stumbled upon a random house party with a group of mates. It was the early hours of the morning and I don’t think anyone was being their best self. 😂 My friend looked over at a guy we didn’t know and instantly judged him, saying how boring he looked. I told her not to judge a book by its cover (after all, it was around 6am!) and to go over…
I was listening to a podcast the other day + they were talking about how to build stronger relationships. 💪🏻 Can’t for the life of me remember who I was listening to so won’t paste the link here but the interviewee said he + his wife ask this question of each other regularly: “How can I love you today?” 💕 I thought this was such a cool question to ask your partner, so I’ve started doing…
We live in a culture of apologising for who we are; the British especially are excellent at apologising for no reason at all. 🤷🏼♀️ How often do you apologise for… 🤔 asking questions 🛑 not being available all the time 🥹 your feelings 🤷🏼♀️ vocalising your needs 👣 outgrowing a place, person or situation 👏🏼 your accomplishments ☺️ not looking presentable 😍 doing things that make you happy ❌ having boundaries 🏠 having a messy house…
Are you going through a rough time right now and feeling a bit stuck? 😢 I always find it helpful to ask questions – in my mind, often at night before I go to sleep. 💤 Then just let it go and wait to receive the answers. 🎈 Sometimes the answer comes in unexpected ways. It might be a conversation with a stranger, something you read, a gift, it could be anything or a…
How often do you have positive convos with your partner about your relationship? A lot of couples nit pick and whinge at each other about what they feel the other person is doing wrong or not doing enough of. Do you find yourself doing this in your own relationship? Most people are more than happy to point out what we perceive to be our partners flaws, while getting defensive about our own when they are…