How many people do you know who introduce themselves by talking about their struggles? 🤔 You only need to sit at a nail bar or coffee shop to hear people around you talking about all the things in their lives that are going wrong. Is this something you do too? Do you define yourself by your problems by saying things like “I’m an anxious person”, “I’m a people-pleaser“, “I’m terrible with money“, “I’ve always had shitty relationships“, “I’m just not…
When I hit 38 after the end of another abusive relationship, I had completely lost trust in my own judgement. I’d discovered my core wound of abandonment and rejection and… fuck me, did it hurt. 😞 Even after having done a shitload of healing, coaching and other personal development tools since my early twenties, this wound knocked the wind out of me. 💨 I needed time and space to heal. A lot of space. Space to reflect on what…
One of the biggest things I see in the personal development world is people confusing authenticity or intuition with acting on every feeling they have. Just because something feels true doesn’t mean it’s coming from your authentic self. Sometimes it’s coming from your wounds and insecurities. Which is a mahoosive difference. Your authentic self says: “This relationship isn’t meeting my needs, so I really need to have an honest conversation with them.” 🗣️ Your insecurity says: “They didn’t text…
Recently I shared a blog called “Are You The Red Flag?” and promised to follow up with some more examples of what some more red flags can look like from those clients who’ve been wounded in past relationships and are now bringing their baggage into the next one. So here we are! REAL EXAMPLES (FROM MY CLIENTS) 🚩 I’m not talking about the obvious red flags like cheating or abuse… I’m talking about the sneaky…
There’s a quiet trap many emotionally intelligent, empathetic people fall into – and I’ve been there in most of my past relationships too. You’re not in love with how they’re showing up right now. You’re in love with who you know they could be. 🤔 You see their depth (you think), their wounds, the backstory that created those wounds, the insight they almost have. You can picture the future version of them so clearly it feels irresponsible not to…
I see you. You’re the one that sees the potential in everyone. You’re the one that gives people leeway for how they’re behaving, because you know the shit they went through in the past. You know that people usually only hurt people when they are also hurting deep down. You let them off when they behave badly, because you see the pain in them and know they didn’t really mean it. One day…