We’re taught to fear our breakdowns. To see every crack as a flaw. Every emotional collapse as failure. But what if the breakdown isn’t the end… what if it’s the beginning? I was in a workshop years ago where a psychologist spoke about Post Traumatic Growth – and showed an image of a shattered bowl repaired with gold, called Kintsukuroi. It’s the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold or silver lacquer, not to hide the damage, but…
I’m reading a book called The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel at the moment and love his quote: “The most important part of every plan is planning on your plan not going to plan.” This quote got me thinking about a client I once had while working as a Probation Officer in London. 🧐 Picture this: a guy with a violent past, anger issues, and anxiety so intense that he needed to plan his day down to the…
I often have conversations with people who speak a lot about what they perceive as their anxiety and depression 🥹 What I’ve noticed is that sometimes we pathologise feelings that are a normal response to an abnormal situation. “You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world.” ~ Glennon Doyle Melton We throw around terms like anxiety and depression very loosely in this modern world, often when it’s not actually…
I look happy in this picture, right? This was me in September 2010, the month before I moved from London to Australia. I was in Ibiza, with my brother, and it was definitely a happier week than I’d had, but I was still a shell of my former self. I’d had a hell of a year – actually a hell of a few years leading up to that holiday. I’d lost close friends to…
Are you an “all or nothing” kinda person? I used to be. But the “all or nothingness” leads to extremism and then not really getting to your goals in the most effective way. Life is messy, humans are messy, nobody is perfect. We are all driven by our limiting beliefs such as “I’m not good enough” which kicks in hard when we feel like we are failing. Show up anyway. You can smash out the best week/month ever with…
Last week I had a few conversations where people spoke a lot about their anxiety and depression. What I’ve noticed is that sometimes we pathologise feelings that are a normal response to an abnormal situation. “You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world.” ~Glennon Doyle Melton We throw around terms like anxiety and depression very loosely in this modern world, often when it’s not actually clinical depression or anxiety. …