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You get out of life what you put in

  We all know people who have a sense of entitlement, thinking the world owes them something.   Nothing worth having in life comes easily.   There is no magic pill or silver bullet.   It’s true that when you’re in a state of flow, things do seem to come easier; but that’s also about how you’ve been able to generate that flow state, which often means putting some effort into knowing what you want out of life, setting goals…

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Are you drifting through life?

“Drifting is the decision you’re making when you don’t make a decision about where you’re heading” I heard this statement in a podcast the other day and it really hit as a truth. A lot of people are coasting/drifting through life, day by day feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, without any real sense of purpose or meaning. I especially find this happens in “mid life” where people have what essentially society says should make you happy – a good job,…

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Stop saying “should” – use “will” and “must”

  How often do you tell yourself you “should” do something? I really should save money instead of buy that thing. I really should get up earlier to get to the gym. I really should look after myself better. Should doesn’t often eventuate because there’s already a lack of commitment in the statement. How does it feel when you replace “should” with “will” or “must”? It becomes a thing that you’re definitely going to do. That nobody can persuade you…

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All or something

  Are you an “all or nothing” kinda person? I used to be. But the “all or nothingness” leads to extremism and then not really getting to your goals in the most effective way. Life is messy, humans are messy, nobody is perfect. We are all driven by our limiting beliefs such as “I’m not good enough” which kicks in hard when we feel like we are failing. Show up anyway. You can smash out the best week/month ever with…

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What happens if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?

  It’s normal for us to want those we love the most to be supportive of our goals.   But sometimes, this isn’t our reality.   Recently a member of my online course asked me, “what do I do if my partner isn’t on board with my goals?”   It totally depends on what the context is around this.   We all have our own personal goals, as well as shared goals with our partner and family.   But sometimes…

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How Is Not Confronting Your Dark Side Serving You?

It doesn’t matter who you are, or how successful you are – we all have shit from our past that can keep us stuck. Old, core wound shit that has led to feelings of being unlovable, unworthy, useless, stupid, not good enough. The core wound shit that has attracted people, situations and relationships into our lives that “prove” that we aren’t good enough over and over – until we do the work to heal our wounds. This stuff happens to all of us on some…

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