I’m reading a book at the moment which has been on my to-read list for SO long; The Body Keeps the Score by Bessell Van Der Kolk. At the moment I’m reading a section about safety and reciprocity, about how being able to feel safe with other people is “probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives”. Numerous studies have found that social support is the…
I’m sorry for all those times I never let you speak your mind and stand up for yourself. I forgive you, I love you. 🥺 I’m sorry for all those relationships I tried to make work when they didn’t deserve it. I forgive you, I love you. 🥹 I’m sorry for taking years longer to move to Australia because you let yourself be held back by him. I forgive you, I love you. …
Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…
Recently I seem to be having a lot of conversations with strong, warrior women in my life who are going through really difficult times and in huge conflict about showing their vulnerability. Do you consider yourself to be a fearless warrior?💪🏻 Yeah, me too. The problem with that is that we’re often reluctant to admit we need help, and even more reluctant to ask for it 🫠 Back in 2010, I was in a…
I often have conversations with people who speak a lot about what they perceive as their anxiety and depression 🥹 What I’ve noticed is that sometimes we pathologise feelings that are a normal response to an abnormal situation. “You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world.” ~ Glennon Doyle Melton We throw around terms like anxiety and depression very loosely in this modern world, often when it’s not actually…
I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships. A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔 We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way. We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…