Most of us in life experience at least one relationship that becomes toxic for us. I’ve had my share of long term relationships that were abusive and codependent where I ended up as a shell of who I was. 😶🌫️ Leaving is hard because you’ve lost all confidence in who you are as a person. Toxic people show traits of narcissism and borderline personality disorder among other things; they have attachment issues from childhood which…
Recently I seem to be having a lot of conversations with strong, warrior women in my life who are going through really difficult times and in huge conflict about showing their vulnerability. Do you consider yourself to be a fearless warrior?💪🏻 Yeah, me too. The problem with that is that we’re often reluctant to admit we need help, and even more reluctant to ask for it 🫠 Back in 2010, I was in a…
I often have conversations with people who speak a lot about what they perceive as their anxiety and depression 🥹 What I’ve noticed is that sometimes we pathologise feelings that are a normal response to an abnormal situation. “You are not a mess. You are a feeling person in a messy world.” ~ Glennon Doyle Melton We throw around terms like anxiety and depression very loosely in this modern world, often when it’s not actually…
I spent a good chunk of my life between my mid twenties to my late thirties in unhealthy codependent relationships. A codependent relationship is a love addiction where we seek to prove our worth by helping people with broken wings💔 We’re drawn to addicts and under-functioners who’ll depend on us emotionally, financially or in some other way. We also have a tendency to attract very narcissistic and abusive people who have a lot of shit…
I look happy in this picture, right? This was me in September 2010, the month before I moved from London to Australia. I was in Ibiza, with my brother, and it was definitely a happier week than I’d had, but I was still a shell of my former self. I’d had a hell of a year – actually a hell of a few years leading up to that holiday. I’d lost close friends to…
Recently I was listening to Joel on the Lived Experience Podcast and he was sharing what it was like to grow up with a mum with bipolar disorder. In this interview on the Lived Experience podcast I chat to Joel about my “past life” experience of being a partner/carer of someone with bipolar disorder. It triggered a lot of memories for me of a “past life” relationship in London starting when I was 26 years old, and I…