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What happens when you finally do the work on yourself

  REAL healing – clearing your past baggage, challenging the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and actually learning to love yourself – will completely change your life. 🤩 Not just on a surface level, but deep in your nervous system, your relationships, your self-worth, and your peace. It’s not pretty. It’s not an instant, overnight fix. It’s a lifetime of work.. but fuck, it’s worth it. CLEARING YOUR PAST BAGGAGE Every single one of us carries emotional baggage –…

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Where are you abandoning yourself?

  Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spot when your mate is self-sabotaging themselves, but how when it’s you doing the same thing, you justify your behaviour? 🤔  You tell yourself you’re just keeping the peace, “letting it go”, “being chill” or compromising, being kind or “holding space”. But are you actually just abandoning yourself by people-pleasing, letting them walk all over you and having shitty boundaries? You abandon yourself every time you: 🌀 Say yes when…

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Stop fawning, start yawning: How to break the cycle of people-pleasing

I recently posted this reel on my Coach Carly page and Sue commented “more about the fawning experiences please, so here we go! In the past, when people used to talk about living in survival mode, they would refer to “fight, flight and freeze” modes. Fight, flight and freeze refers to well-known stress responses that occur when the body senses it’s in danger, prompting a release of hormones to either help you fight or run away to essentially save your…

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Why your life tastes like sh*t without self-love

  Ever tried following a recipe but forgot the main ingredient? 🧑‍🍳  Like making banana bread without bananas? Or sangria without wine? (aka fruit salad…why even bother!). Well, that’s exactly what most people are doing with their lives. They’re trying to “be happy”  without the key ingredient: self-love. And the result?  A hot mess that tastes like burnt toast and regret. 🥵  MY RECEIPE FOR A FULFILLED LIFE Let’s break it down, MasterChef style: Ingredients: 🥰 2 cups of self-love…

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When his eyes turned black, I knew I was in trouble

  I’ll never forget this one client at my old job in Corrections. I was supervising a client on a Court Order once – not my usual guy, just filling in for a colleague – and it was evident to me straight away he was in psychosis. 🫨 I’ve worked with many people who are in psychosis the majority of the time, and when you work with someone consistently you know what their baseline is – as in, you can…

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How to set boundaries with social media (without quitting cold turkey)

  Social media: the land of cat videos, inspirational quotes, and people oversharing their breakfast smoothies. 🐈  It can be fun, inspiring, even educational… and it can also be a giant energy-sucking black hole that leaves you feeling like you need a lie-down and a therapist. 🫩 The problem isn’t social media itself.  It’s how much we let it run our lives as well as using it as a tool to numb-out (and avoid what’s really going on in our…

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