“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” – Roy T. Bennett We’ve all been treated unfairly at times ~ it’s part of life. 😞 Certain situations can lead us to feel angry, upset, mistreated and resentful. 😡 It’s perfectly normal to feel that way, but when you allow yourself to…
How would your life be if you truly loved, honoured and respected yourself? If you honoured your needs each day? If you lived in integrity with your values in each moment? I find this is a really useful – and often – confronting question to ask my clients, one they get pretty immediate answers to. I work with a lot of very natural “helper” types – I’m one of those too. There can…
I heard on a podcast the other day, “enabling comes in many forms”. How true that is. enabler /ɪˈneɪblə,ɛˈneɪblə/ A person who encourages or enables negative or self-destructive behaviour in another. I’ve spent many years in the past enabling others to continue to treat me in a certain way, or continue a certain pattern of behaviour without setting boundaries. I’ve enabled people to continue an addiction. I’ve enabled people to continue living in…
I saw the above title in a quote this week, and it really triggered a big reflection for me. A reflection on how many times in the past I’ve done exactly that – let the unacceptable become the acceptable. How in the past I’ve allowed myself to be treated with disrespect due to my own shitty boundaries. How I’ve allowed others to emotionally abuse me – some for years. How I gave my energy and power away on the…
Kurt Vonnegut said “hate, in the long run, is about as nourishing as cyanide.”He’s so right.Are you holding on to repressed anger, bitterness, resentment or hate?Who are you directing that towards?Do you know what those kind of emotions do you your physiology, physical body and mental health when you refuse to let them go?Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The only person we are really hurting is ourselves. Toxic emotions can create serious…
I was interviewed by the gorgeous Catherine Keeley from Nourished Life a couple of weeks ago about the power of forgiveness. It was such a fun chat with lots of awesome tips and practical techniques you can use to move forward in your own life. Forgiveness doesn’t have to be about forgiving the person to their face. Holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Do yourself a favour and let that shit go!…