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Would you be proud or worried if your kid followed your relationship path?

  When I coach my clients around relationship issues, I find a really good question to ask is whether they’d be happy if their kid (or sibling or someone else they love) was in a relationship similar to their own. 🧐    It’s a confronting question and one that generates an immediate response.   We can fart-arse around any other question and smooth things over in our minds about our own relationship…. but if you took that same kind of…

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Stop playing the victim

  Are you a “victim,” or are you taking responsibility for your life? 🧐  I’m not talking about those who are or have been a victim of some kind of trauma. ❤️‍🩹  But there’s a big difference between being a victim and being a survivor and someone who likes the drama of playing the victim.  So many of us THINK we’re taking responsibility for our own live’s when we aren’t really.  The “victim” mentality is very subtle and it takes…

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I like you, but I like me more

  I was listening to the Matthew Hussey podcast the other day and they were talking about relationships as they always do. 🫶🏻 It was a pretty interesting depth convo about a range of things but at one point his wife said “I like me more than you.” She wasn’t saying this to him; she was saying it in relation to people who leave a relationship that isn’t good for their best self because they CHOOSE themselves over being “less…

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Someone pissing you off? Try this

  Is someone in your life annoying you at the moment? 😤   Try writing out a list of their positive aspects/traits. 🧐    Once you get going, the list is usually longer than you think it’ll be! 🙃   By doing this you start to observe the things you love about that person as what you focus on is what you get more of (law of attraction), and so you’re brain starts filtering out the things you don’t love…

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Pain is part of life; suffering is optional

    We all go through painful situations in life – it’s an inevitable part of the journey of living.   But suffering is a human condition + one that we do to ourselves.    We obsessively think about things that happened in our past, that we did or were done to us. 🤯   We overthink all the things we believe are going wrong in our lives.   By doing so, we forget how magnificent our life really is.…

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Stop saying “should” – use “will” and “must”

    How often do you tell yourself you “should” do something?   I really should save money instead of buy that thing. 💰    I really should get up earlier to get to the gym.  🏋🏼    I really should look after myself better.   Should doesn’t often eventuate because there’s already a lack of commitment in the statement.    How does it feel when you replace “should” with “will” or “must”?   It becomes a thing that you’re…

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