(It’s the subtle shit that steals your power) Manipulation isn’t always the obvious, movie-villain stuff. 🦹 Sometimes it’s soft, sneaky, and served with a side of “but I’m only saying this because I love you babe.” If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling confused, guilty, or like your brain got fucked over by someone who swears they “did nothing wrong”… I totally know how that feels. 🥺 You’ve probably been manipulated, which is hard to swallow if…
Some of us even earned the full loyalty card. 🙋♀️ You know the one… the relationship that looks cute on Instagram but feels like slow emotional death in real life. The one where you convince yourself “he’s just misunderstood,” while your gut’s in the corner quietly sobbing into a bottle of wine. 🍷 If you’ve ever wondered how to build your own red flag starter pack, here’s the foolproof 5-step formula I perfected back in my toxic relationship era.…
There’s a moment (and if you’ve been there, you’ll know exactly what I mean) where you realise you’ve been shrinking yourself just to keep the peace. ✌️ You’ve dimmed your light, silenced your voice, and convinced yourself it’s love. You’ve made yourself smaller so they wouldn’t feel threatened. You’ve swallowed your truth so you didn’t have to deal with another argument. And somewhere along the way, you disappeared. 🫥 Now you’re a shell of yourself. 🐚 You catch yourself…
My first properly serious relationship was a biggie that affected me for a very long time afterwards. We got together when I was 17; we’d worked together at a gym for a few years by then. I was pretty young and naive and totally in love. 😍 I’d hear my mates bang on about how untrustworthy guys were, and I’d be all “not my man, I totally trust him, he’s a terrible liar so I’d know if he was…
Feeling “safe” isn’t just about locking your doors at night or carrying your keys like Wolverine claws in a dark car park (although, let’s be honest, we’ve all done it). 🔑 Safety goes way deeper than that. Feeling safe is about your , your emotional needs and that quiet part of you that just wants to breathe a sigh of relief and finally unclench your jaw. So – what do you need to feel safe? 🧐 For some of…
I’m reading a book called The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel at the moment and love his quote: “The most important part of every plan is planning on your plan not going to plan.” This quote got me thinking about a client I once had while working as a Probation Officer in London. 🧐 Picture this: a guy with a violent past, anger issues, and anxiety so intense that he needed to plan his day down to the…