At some point in our life, most of us get to a point where we are confronted with that awful moment of realisation that we’ve ended up in a bad or sticky spot.
You know, that moment where you think ohhhhh shit I need to leave this job/relationship/career/home/country or whatever it is.
Or maybe you realise you need to stop thinking or behaving in a certain way, or that the thing you’ve been blamed for IS actually your fault.
Maybe you find yourself pretending to be someone you were never meant to be.
The moment you have this wake up call is never a fun moment.
This is where you finally admit to yourself that you can’t keep doing whatever it is anymore.
Not this, not anymore.
You might not know at that point how to do life any differently, but you do know that you can’t keep doing life like that anymore.
All you know is that some deep life force within you is giving you an almighty nudge, saying NOT THIS, and that feeling won’t bugger off no matter what you do.
It just gets stronger.
Your body, mind, heart and soul all say NOT THIS, not anymore.
This is the point where you realise that while you can’t keep living that way, to make changes is going to cause some hectic problems in your life.
And for a while you might ignore the loud nudge because it’s hard; it’s hard ending a relationship, changing your job, moving home, quitting addictions.
So you put up with it for a while longer.
But when you ignore your gut feeling and the nudge the Big U is trying to give you, it’ll slap you in the face like a big wet kipper and often force the situation in a way that’s even more uncomfortable.
Not knowing how to take a certain action isn’t a reason not to take the action when you know it’s the right thing to do.
It takes courage to admit “not this, not anymore” out loud, without even knowing what your plan is.
This was a situation I found myself in last year, looking at the life I had mapped out ahead of me and realising it looked pretty gloomy if I stayed in the relationship I was in.
I had to bite the bullet and walk away not knowing what lay ahead, but knowing and feeling with all of my being, “not this, not anymore.”
Sometimes you really do have to be honest about the life you’re really in, instead of hoping it’ll work out, and say to yourself “I don’t know what my life is supposed to look like but I sure as shit know it’s not this.”
And then you just…. leave.
It might seem crazy to leave a situation, but if deep down your soul knows it’s wrong, you can’t ignore it.
Would you rather be unhappy for the rest of your life?
If you keep ignoring the feeling within you that says “not this, not anymore” just because you don’t know what to do, instead…you may end up stuck in NOT THIS forever.
You don’t need to know what lies ahead to admit that where you are standing right now is wrong for you.
The bravest thing you can do for yourself is leave.
Who knows what will come next for you.
I know that since I left last year, my life has become 100% better, with more amazing people in my life and love that I have never experienced before.
Amazing things happen when you do the right thing for yourself.
Where in your life are you thinking “not this, not anymore?”
Sending you all the good vibes to help you make the leap for your highest good.
Much love ❤️
Catcha on the flip side,
Coach Carly xx
