“I am what I think others think I am.”Read that a few times and notice the power (and truth) in that statement.We live in a world based on a perception within a perception.We have all these perceptions (illusions and lies) about what our partner, boss, friend, parent etc thinks about us, and we act accordingly.Bit mad isn’t it?It means that most of the time, we aren’t being our true, authentic selves.Do we even know who our authentic self even is?Do…
I was chatting to a friend the other day about a guy she’s been seeing for a few months.She was really upset about the way she’s being treated and she’s well aware that she’s allowing it to happen due to her own limiting beliefs and self-worth issues. Not everyone is as aware as my friend about how much she is feeding into the situation.A lot of us in relationships can get stuck into blame and victim mode when things aren’t going well.Why do they…
We all go through painful situations in life – it’s an inevitable part of the journey of living.But suffering is a human condition and one that we do to ourselves. We obsessively think about things that happened in our past, that we did or were done to us.We overthink all the things we believe are going wrong in our lives.And by doing so, we forget how magnificent our life really is.What we focus on, we get more of. By wallowing in…
Around 80% of our thoughts are negative. Does that number surprise you?In my twenties I did some volunteering as an Appropriate Adult for vulnerable adults being interviewed by the Police.(Side note: a lot of my mates will have a giggle at me having the title “Appropriate Adult”) 😆As part of that training we learned about mental health and anxiety provoking thoughts that can lead to behaviour change during interviews.As homework we were told to pay closer attention to our thoughts over a…
At some point in our life, most of us get to a point where we are confronted with that awful moment of realisation that we’ve ended up in a bad or sticky spot.You know, that moment where you think ohhhhh shit I need to leave this job/relationship/career/home/country or whatever it is. Or maybe you realise you need to stop thinking or behaving in a certain way, or that the thing you’ve been blamed for IS actually your fault.Maybe you find yourself…
We’ve all got people in our lives who suck the life out of us. Those kind of push/pull relationships where they’ll push you away, call you a crappy friend/partner, act like you don’t even exist or talk smack about you to others.Then they pull you back in with some drama or another, making you feel needed in some way.Exhausting, isn’t it? True energy vampires.Ask yourself what it is you’d need to do to change the situation.Do you need to have better…