After all the trauma you’ve endured and how much you’ve grown from it, you might start telling yourself “I’ve got this,” when you realise you’re one of the most independent people you know. It seems like confidence on the surface because you’re a strong, capable and independent person. 💪🏻 But what can seem like confidence may actually be the result of your nervous system learning that relying on other people wasn’t safe. Your brain has adapted because you were…
If you’ve left an unhealthy/toxic/abusive relationship and you’re wondering why you still feel so shit, your nervous system is likely still fried. 🍳 Survival mode doesn’t just switch off the moment you end the relationship – and the longer you’ve been with your nervous system in overdrive, the more time you’ll need to heal it. The frazzled-ness lingers in your thoughts, your habits, your reactions… until you finally teach your body and mind that you’re safe now.…
As I write this, I’m mid-air flying to London for an emergency trip back to the UK. ✈️ Cam was there with me when I got some concerning news and he was so amazing, nothing but supportive. 🥰 It wasn’t even a thought that I had to ask for “permission” to book a flight home even though it means all our Christmas plans go out the window. I had a moment where I thought what this would have been…
I was recently listening to this podcast where ex homicide detective Gary Jubelin was interviewing another ex homicide detective who he started his career with at the police academy. 👮 They both agreed that back then, they entered the force thinking this would be their life long career. At first they didn’t want to take a single day off as it was all new and exciting, they got to see the kind of stuff most people only see…